Brazilian student sells virginity to build homes for the poor
I love the idea of an informed, intelligent young woman leveraging her virginity to make a killing and help a good cause while she’s at it. However, I can’t say I support Catarina Migliorini’s claim that fucking for money doesn’t make you a prostitute, if you only do it once. In this article, Migliorini seems to be devoid of shame over her decision to sell her cherry to the highest bidder, but the way she frames the experience is telling of her true feelings around the social stigma of being considered a whore. She feels ok about sex for cash until the word “prostitution” is used to describe the transition, even after stating that she see’s the experience as an opportunity to make money, and travel. She’s also looking forward to contributing a large portion of her earnings to a housing development that will greatly relieve homelessness in her home state of Sanata Catarina. Surely, you can’t be a whore if your charitable, right? That seems to be the thinking here, and it saddens me that people can’t simply own up to what they really are, either because they’re ashamed of their identities, or because to be honest would endangered their livelihoods.
I’m regularly frustrated by people’s idea of what is and isn’t prostitution. I personally have never felt like more of a ho in my life than when waiting tables on thankless restaurant patrons, hustling hard for every dollar and maximizing my earnings with smiles, perkiness, and a relentless effort to please. I realized that I made more money if I wore a loose ponytail as opposed to a braid, and that eyeliner made a sizable difference in my tips as well. I wasn’t just selling food, I was selling the added ambiance of having that food delivered by a sexually viable female. Sure felt like prostitution to me, though I’m certain many of my food service peers would disagree with that label. Honestly, who would ever proudly label themselves as prostitutes? It’s considered to be the lowest of the lowly occupations, though the majority of us participate in this type of exchange everyday. I’m not just talking metephorically either, as it the case with my food service jobs. I’m talking about the fact that the internet has made sexy jobs more possible than ever. I’m keenly interested in seeing how the easy access to Clips4Sale, phone sex, and web cames grow the number of people who have engaged in erotic services. Toss in the student debt trend, and I think we’re looking at a hefty ho percentage increase in the upcoming adult populations.
As a Professional Dominatrix, I see new acquaintances relax visibly when I explain that I don’t have sex with my patrons. “Oh thank goodness,” I can hear them think, “she’s not a prostitute. She’s a Dominatrix!”. Yeah, I don’t fuck my clients, I just dress them like cheap sluts, stuff cock gags in their mouths, spit on them, make them hump pillows, lick the floor, and tell them all the filthy “what if” stories they could ever possibly want to hear while they’re engaged in said depraved acts. I do this all while dressed in a form fitting outfit made of leather, nylon, or some other tight and stretchy fabric, using my body to tease, taunt and pretty much drive my patrons wild with desire. But I don’t fuck them, so it’s not prostitution.
I don’t think many of my contemporaries in the field of Pro-Domination would relish having their craft described as prostitution, but I wonder how much of this reaction would be due to actual distaste for the concept or simply the dangerous social stigma behind it. Surely, our livelihoods depend on walking the thin line between the legal and forbidden, and we all make a clear point of stating on our websites that the services rendered in BDSM and kink are not prostitution. Of course, prostitution is (largely) illegal in this country, and no one likes the idea of going to jail for simply doing their job.
I hope that Catarina does make a butt load of money,travel the world, and help out her hometown with the money derived from selling her virgin ass. I simply wish she and whoever she’s working with on this project would simply own up to the fact that it is indeed prostitution. Ms. Migliorini, hold your ho head up high!