What is a Fantasy Facilitator?
If you’ve done a little homework on me, you may notice that I do not always rely on the title of Dominatrix to describe what I do for a living. You might also observe that I use the phrase “Fantasy Facilitator” in addendum to Dominatrix, which is a term I invented myself, and that I feel aptly describes my profession. Before I launch into what characterizes my style of Domination and kink, I would first like to define a few words and give you an idea of what it’s like to run your own business in this part of the adult industry.
I happen to operate in an exciting and sexy world where practitioners can (and do) invent their own titles, create personas for themselves, and work by their own set of rules and standards. For this article, I will refer to this world as the field of “sex work”, and I will refer to the practitioners within it as “erotic service providers”, or simply “providers” for short. Not everyone in my industry subscribes to these phrases, which is another example of how each individual can forge their own path in the industry. This is very important to understand, because my methods of running my kinky business may be in stark contrast to a provider in Germany, Florida, or even just down the street. Our methods may vary in every respect, from our session application process to our realm of specialty (BDSM, massage, dancing, phone sex, escorting, etc.). I hope this essay tells you more about my personal approach to sex work, and helps you determine whether or not we will be a good match for a session.
Oh, and before I go on…I will ultimately have the final say on whether or not we will be suitable match for a session, so buckle down and pay attention. You might want to impress me later…
Let’s examine my chosen title of Fantasy Facilitator. Let’s first address the word Fantasy, which in this context refers to erotic fantasy. YOUR fantasy, to be specific. I have plenty of my own fantasies, of course, but let’s be honest…you’re coming to me because you have some sexy thought or inclination that you’d like to explore. There’s nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies, or for wanting to exercise them with a professional. As Facilitator of fantasies, it’s my job to take your desires and concoct a situation in which you can enjoy them, safely, and without judgment. I will take into account the nuances of your erotic interests, as well as the bigger picture, to develop a scene that you can respond to authentically, and with great satisfaction. As someone who’s always been keenly interested in the range of human sexual expression, I’m honored and thrilled to work personally with your Eros, and really employ all of my skills to make each session a unique, tailored experience for my patron. This is why I believe that the phrase Fantasy Facilitator suites me so nicely.
Now, while it tickles me pick to hit the nail on the head and bring your fantasies to life, I of course need to consider my own physical and emotional safety. Most providers are familiar with the idea of setting personal boundaries around sex work. Sex work can be very demanding on the body and spirit, and mindful providers take care to stay within whatever boundaries feel right for them. If a provider ever decides to alter their boundaries, that decision is up to them, not the client. To pressure a provider (or anyone) into doing something they feel is not right for them is in really poor taste, or criminal, in some cases. My boundaries are stated on the Services section of my website, and I expect for them to be respected by my patrons. Because my boundaries prevent me from performing certain aspects of a fantasy, I either need to be very creative (which I am…), or suggest a potential client that they seek services elsewhere.
Now, let’s move onto the word Dominatrix. I do indeed consider myself to be a Dominatrix (and a fairly sublime one, at that), but given the information I have provided above, do you see why I might wish to expand upon my job title? A classic Dominatrix operates as a supreme and unyielding authority, playing the ruling role in a D/s (Dominance/submission) power dynamic. This is, of course, my short and simple explanation, and I have a feeling that if you asked other Dominas about their definition of the word Dominatrix, you would get different answers. For my purposes, solely stating that I am a Dominatrix does not serve to describe the full range of services I offer, my styles of play, or the fact that I am openly customer service oriented. While many Dommes are behooved by maintaining a tight and constant grip on their power role, I prefer to activate my power in session. I’m very much a professional and an equal while we make arrangements, but as soon as the session starts, I’m a living fantasy. I do this even with my private playmates, letting the D/s dynamic blossom into authenticity as we get to know each other. Since I also specialize in fetish indulgence, a good portion of my scenes don’t employ power play. I’m as varied in my offerings as my patrons are in their desires.
In essence, dear reader, I am an extremely kinky, wildly creative, highly intelligent girl with a knack for knowing what makes you tick. I find your hot buttons, manipulate them, and usually succeed in blowing your mind.
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
~ Ms. Savannah
